What is bullying? How do you deal with bullying in the workplace particularly in the nursing community? I have been a victim many times over of covert nursing bullying.
However, this was the first time someone literally attempted to physically terminate my freedom of expression! I ask the readers, what would you have done if your left shoulder was grabbed by a nurse saying, “That’s enough, Helen… It’s time for you to leave”?
The line “I disapprove of what you say but I will defend to the death your right to say it,” came to my mind at a recent legislative meeting, as I was physically being encouraged to stop speaking and leave the premises. The quote is purportedly written by Evelyn Beatrice Hall using the pen name Stephen G. Tallentyre. As for myself, I have been an outspoken and passionate patient advocate for many years in the nursing community and I make no apologies.
During my 33 years of working in the operating room arena, I had to pick my battles of when to stand up for myself and when not to. Although retreating was never in my makeup, the loss of dignity in the face of fire was not pleasant! The loss of sleep at times was not conducive to my spirit. The loss of my hard earned monies being siphoned off to my attorney to ensure my continued employment at a time when my children were in college was hard to bear. The intentional cajoling whispers behind my back as I passed certain staffers were hurtful. The saddest realization as a nurse was when it finally dawned on me that some of my nursing managers were part of the lateral violence in nursing, as it is called today!
Nurse bullying, for the most part, is the easiest and most simple method to get a nurse to quit her or his job, i.e. no documentation, no precipitating event which would have to be validated in the future by Human Resources and therefore no litigious issue ensues. Being bullied for being outspoken is not a justification for the act.
Later, more bullying came not just by individual nurses but by organizations, i.e. powerful organizations. Those episodes were a real kick in the heart! We all know that eventually one violent act, actual or covert, precipitate and condone more violence in all walks of life when it is done in an effort to thwart free speech.
So now I am a 67-year-old retired operating room nurse who is no less outspoken or no less passionate about patient care and patient safety than I was when I first graduated from nursing in 1974. Patient safety to me is nursing excellence! I never entered nursing to become rich, powerful, or self-serving! Being so naïve for the first few years of my career, I believed this ideal also holds true for my peers. Sadly, I was wrong! When money becomes the god, patient safety becomes the victim.
Why am I so passionate about patient care? The new statistics are unbelievable:
– 1 out of every 5 hospitalized Medicare patients died last year
– 1 out of every 7 hospitalized Medicare patients were injured
The figure of 99,000 hospital deaths is a very “old” statistic because it now shows that there are over 200,000 hospital deaths yearly.
I don’t need a PhD to understand what nursing bullying is all about. I have lived it! I don’t need to know what freedom of speech in the name of patient safety and the nursing community really is. I am still living it and it is our right!